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This is a space where survivors of trauma and abuse share their stories alongside supportive allies. These stories remind us that hope exists even in dark times. You are never alone in your experience. Healing is possible for everyone.
Healing is possible Its a long road Dont be afraid to reach out for support Feel all feelings to fully heal
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You've got this! You are unbelievably strong and you are not alone!
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Healing to me means realising none of this was ever my fault - it wasn’t what I was wearing or because I was drunk. And it also means working hard to make sure women and girls are safe
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There is always light at the end of the tunnel - guaranteed. Never give up. Your victory story will help others. You have a purpose. In my darkest days I wish someone told me this. You are worthy.
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Healing means letting myself feel that anger, knowing that I don’t even have to forgive myself because there is nothing I should be sorry for. It’s not linear, it takes time and it also takes support and I don’t have to do it alone. There is still so much internalised misogyny I have to unlearn and that’s part of it too.
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I know now that the abuse I went through was not normal and not acceptable and it gave me hope to know that future partners would never do that to me. I hope that if anything like this ever happened to me again, I will have the courage to speak up. There are bad people in the world, but there are a lot of good people too.
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There is always light at the end of the tunnel. There is always hope as "hope is a thing with feathers." There is help out there and there is always someone willing to listen. Things always get better in the end, there is so much more to look forward to. You are not your past trauma. There is a future out there, waiting.
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I'm 9 weeks on from my assault and in the early stages of wedding planning. I'll never forget what happened me but I hope in time the good out weighs the bad.
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As someone who is in the process of court hearings due to rape and sexual assault. It would be nice to find support and speak to others who are in similar situations.
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Healing to me is being kind to yourself and allow yourself to have those hard days, allow your heart to love yourself because you are pretty amazing. For me art was my way to express those feelings even though I was not good at it, I just let it be and kept going.
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You have a strength in you to fight . The best revenge is not letting him have a hold on your future.
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It’s never easy, but you learn to be okay again. Trust the process.
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It's not your fault. I used to think after the amount of times it had happened to me, it must be me. I must give off energy that makes men want to control and do this to me. It turns out, there are just so many people who want full contol and domination over others. It's not our fault.
Report
Healing means you refuse to be defined by any mistakes or experiences that broke you
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This is a space where survivors of trauma and abuse share their stories alongside supportive allies. These stories remind us that hope exists even in dark times. You are never alone in your experience. Healing is possible for everyone.
There is always light at the end of the tunnel - guaranteed. Never give up. Your victory story will help others. You have a purpose. In my darkest days I wish someone told me this. You are worthy.
Report
There is always light at the end of the tunnel. There is always hope as "hope is a thing with feathers." There is help out there and there is always someone willing to listen. Things always get better in the end, there is so much more to look forward to. You are not your past trauma. There is a future out there, waiting.
Report
I'm 9 weeks on from my assault and in the early stages of wedding planning. I'll never forget what happened me but I hope in time the good out weighs the bad.
Report
Healing to me is being kind to yourself and allow yourself to have those hard days, allow your heart to love yourself because you are pretty amazing. For me art was my way to express those feelings even though I was not good at it, I just let it be and kept going.
Report
It's not your fault. I used to think after the amount of times it had happened to me, it must be me. I must give off energy that makes men want to control and do this to me. It turns out, there are just so many people who want full contol and domination over others. It's not our fault.
Report
Healing means you refuse to be defined by any mistakes or experiences that broke you
Report
Healing to me means realising none of this was ever my fault - it wasn’t what I was wearing or because I was drunk. And it also means working hard to make sure women and girls are safe
Report
I know now that the abuse I went through was not normal and not acceptable and it gave me hope to know that future partners would never do that to me. I hope that if anything like this ever happened to me again, I will have the courage to speak up. There are bad people in the world, but there are a lot of good people too.
Report
As someone who is in the process of court hearings due to rape and sexual assault. It would be nice to find support and speak to others who are in similar situations.
Report
Healing is possible Its a long road Dont be afraid to reach out for support Feel all feelings to fully heal
Report
You've got this! You are unbelievably strong and you are not alone!
Report
Healing means letting myself feel that anger, knowing that I don’t even have to forgive myself because there is nothing I should be sorry for. It’s not linear, it takes time and it also takes support and I don’t have to do it alone. There is still so much internalised misogyny I have to unlearn and that’s part of it too.
Report
You have a strength in you to fight . The best revenge is not letting him have a hold on your future.
Report
It’s never easy, but you learn to be okay again. Trust the process.
Report
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Grounding activity
Find a comfortable place to sit. Gently close your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths - in through your nose (count to 3), out through your mouth (count of 3). Now open your eyes and look around you. Name the following out loud:
5 – things you can see (you can look within the room and out of the window)
4 – things you can feel (what is in front of you that you can touch?)
3 – things you can hear
2 – things you can smell
1 – thing you like about yourself.
Take a deep breath to end.
From where you are sitting, look around for things that have a texture or are nice or interesting to look at.
Hold an object in your hand and bring your full focus to it. Look at where shadows fall on parts of it or maybe where there are shapes that form within the object. Feel how heavy or light it is in your hand and what the surface texture feels like under your fingers (This can also be done with a pet if you have one).
Take a deep breath to end.
Ask yourself the following questions and answer them out loud:
1. Where am I?
2. What day of the week is today?
3. What is today’s date?
4. What is the current month?
5. What is the current year?
6. How old am I?
7. What season is it?
Take a deep breath to end.
Put your right hand palm down on your left shoulder. Put your left hand palm down on your right shoulder. Choose a sentence that will strengthen you. For example: “I am powerful.” Say the sentence out loud first and pat your right hand on your left shoulder, then your left hand on your right shoulder.
Alternate the patting. Do ten pats altogether, five on each side, each time repeating your sentences aloud.
Take a deep breath to end.
Cross your arms in front of you and draw them towards your chest. With your right hand, hold your left upper arm. With your left hand, hold your right upper arm. Squeeze gently, and pull your arms inwards. Hold the squeeze for a little while, finding the right amount of squeeze for you in this moment. Hold the tension and release. Then squeeze for a little while again and release. Stay like that for a moment.
Take a deep breath to end.